Comments on: Having Good Interactions With Store Employees

By: Taylor Levinson

Taylor Levinson — Fri, 12 Aug 2022 08:46:20 +0000

Brilliant post Tynan, it really hit home for me. I definitely notice myself drooping into robot mode sometimes in these sorts of interactions, and it doesn't take very much energy to snap out of that. PLEASE keep bragging away about developing social skills

By: PoBo

PoBo — Fri, 03 Jun 2022 14:44:46 +0000

Maybe in some parts of the world. But I find just the opposite to be true as well. As a socially skilled person who does engage others in the ways you mention,, I am constantly treated as actually less than the stranger or new customer. Instead of receiving extra attention, or that mythical “this one is on the house,” I’m met with indifference and my order made secondary to some other menial task the server or bartender has made a higher priority than any customer.

I find this is particularly bad with females, but is starting to became common with males as well. You can say it’s me, but I know that it’s not, as I can literally charm the pants off girls, and engage great and small alike. I even had established politicians suggest I run for office after a brief encounter with me. So I don’t think it’s me.

It may just be that I’m in an area that caters to many tourists and this servers behave this way in general as they too are as transient as the tourists. But that shouldn’t be the case, and there are still examples of dealing with venues and staff over a long enough period to experience what you describe here.

I’m starting to think the last generations have lost sight of the value of reciprocity, and are taking others for granted. Or perhaps it’s just that reciprocity is only extended to one’s own generation, and not to others. Either way, it’s costing the businesses, and their staffs, big money, as the list of businesses I will never patronize again continues to grow.

By: Keith Mander

Keith Mander — Wed, 25 May 2022 09:04:54 +0000

I’m making my first trip to Budapest next week (29th – 2nd). Would love to join the meetup should it happen to be organised during that time 🙂

By: Mmmm

Mmmm — Tue, 24 May 2022 14:01:21 +0000

Am I too late? It would be great to have a meeting again in Budapest!

By: Drew

Drew — Sun, 22 May 2022 12:11:49 +0000

Thank you for this post. You’re spot on. Like everything else, social skills requires practice, authentic effort and sincerity.

Whenever I travel abroad to Asia especially to places such as Japan or Thailand, I’m always impressed with how polite the people are. They look you in the eye, smile and greet you with no expectations of delivering a sales pitch. They don’t go out their way to criticize our foreign policies, military adventures or corporate imperialism.

This sense of cultural etiquette, proper manners and good will seems to be vanishing especially in this polarizing climate. But it doesn’t have to. We can be civil to the person providing a service to us.

By: Denny

Denny — Fri, 20 May 2022 15:51:35 +0000

Tynan, as always, thank you for taking the time and energy to write for us. The value you’ve provided with your ideas, big and small, is immense. And it’s free..unreal.

Every time I see a new post, I’m reminded why I’m so impressed by you: how you think creatively, build connections in the most interesting ways, and tell a fun and authentic story as well.

I’ve never ever once felt any sense of ego from your writing. As such, it’s a pleasure to read the brag-worthy things you do, create, and communicate.

I hope you never stop writing, selfishly, and even if you did, the amount of everlasting gems transmitted from your fingers are a real treat to us all.

Thank you!!

By: Mark

Mark — Fri, 20 May 2022 05:35:33 +0000

Hey Tynan, do you ever do meetups in Vegas or just your annual consulting group? I’ll be in Vegas next week for work so I’m disappointed that you’re a half a world a way. If you’re ever do anything out here in the west, please let the readers know.